The Romantic vs. The Player: In Defense of the Other
The Romantic vs. The Player: Another Man's Woman
The Romantic vs. The Player: Walking Dogs
Warning To The Women Who Date My Friends
Read Fine Print Before Dating My Unemployed Ass
Situationship, Isness, And The Relationship Thesaurus
James Cameron on Marriage
Why I Am No Longer Using The 10-Point Rating System
2. Although I disagree on many points, your analysis of the women who love these men is fairly accurate, albeit incomplete. Yes, these women chase after EUMs because of personal insecurity. Yes, they want to change these men because they think that if they could only somehow beat the odds and squeeze love out of these unwilling sources, that their self worth (which they don't fully believe in) would be validated. Yes, they choose these men and put up with their bad behavior because they don't truly believe they can do better.
From what I gather from your analysis, is that you think its acceptable for EUM'S to gain all the fringe benefits of a relationship (attention, sex, ego strokes, company etc) without actually providing any emotional substance or commitment— as long as they communicate their true intentions. Fair enough. However, you fail to realize that in order for this scenario to play out smoothly two things need to happen:
1. The men must know their true intentions and be able to effectively communicate their emotional state.
This is certainly problematic because, as I stated before, EUMs are habitually disconnect from their emotions. Merely interpreting what they are feeling is problem for them. Therefore, communicating this in a clear way is a whole other problem! Surely you must realize that if you one can barely interpret one's own feelings, then communicating these feelings in a ~direct ~manner is almost impossible. How can I effectively tell you something about myself even I, myself, is vaguely aware of?
The Romantic vs. The Player: Another Man's Woman
The Romantic vs. The Player: Walking Dogs
Warning To The Women Who Date My Friends
Read Fine Print Before Dating My Unemployed Ass
Situationship, Isness, And The Relationship Thesaurus
James Cameron on Marriage
Why I Am No Longer Using The 10-Point Rating System
2. Although I disagree on many points, your analysis of the women who love these men is fairly accurate, albeit incomplete. Yes, these women chase after EUMs because of personal insecurity. Yes, they want to change these men because they think that if they could only somehow beat the odds and squeeze love out of these unwilling sources, that their self worth (which they don't fully believe in) would be validated. Yes, they choose these men and put up with their bad behavior because they don't truly believe they can do better.
From what I gather from your analysis, is that you think its acceptable for EUM'S to gain all the fringe benefits of a relationship (attention, sex, ego strokes, company etc) without actually providing any emotional substance or commitment— as long as they communicate their true intentions. Fair enough. However, you fail to realize that in order for this scenario to play out smoothly two things need to happen:
1. The men must know their true intentions and be able to effectively communicate their emotional state.
This is certainly problematic because, as I stated before, EUMs are habitually disconnect from their emotions. Merely interpreting what they are feeling is problem for them. Therefore, communicating this in a clear way is a whole other problem! Surely you must realize that if you one can barely interpret one's own feelings, then communicating these feelings in a ~direct ~manner is almost impossible. How can I effectively tell you something about myself even I, myself, is vaguely aware of?
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